It's a big worry for a lot of guys.
You spot a girl who looks like everything you've ever wanted, and decide to walk up and introduce yourself.
But what do you say after that?
What can you talk about with her that will get her laughing and smiling - and convince her you're the man of her dreams?
Let me give you one topic that's guaranteed to keep her interested. And it's going to provide you with more talking points than you'll ever need.
Talk about HER.
Yep. As simple as that. Focus your conversation on finding out about her.
Think about it. Instead of standing there trying to impress her with your life story, or waffling on about the weather or the music or the food, you have a ready-made topic that's sure to get her opening up to you.And let's face it. Don't we all assume that someone who finds us interesting is automatically an interesting person?
Plus, it means she'll be doing most of the talking because she'll be telling you about herself. So you won't find yourself fumbling for words to keep the conversation moving.
And there's plenty you can get her talking about - her job, schooldays, dreams and ambitions, hobbies and pastimes, secret hopes, books she likes to read, movies she like to see, music she likes to hear, places she's visited, what she likes to do on vacation
But most important, she's going to see you as way ahead of the typical pick up artist because you're demonstrating that you're interested in HER as a person.
The fact is, when a woman believes you're really interested in her, she'll very quickly start shifting into goo-goo eye mode.
Let me give you a couple of crucial tips to become really good at this.
First. It's absolutely essential that you start off with the attitude that she IS going to be fascinating, and that there are loads of things you can learn about her.
The fact is that every person on this planet has plenty of interesting things to say - when you bother to go looking for them.
So keep this question running around and around at the back of your mind:
"What fascinating things can I find out about this girl?"
Yep. As simple as that. When you keep pushing this sort of question into your unconscious mind, it will respond by feeding you plenty of questions to ask and things to talk about which are focused on HER. And she'll love you for this.
Second. It's crucial you pay her 100 percent attention and follow her conversation closely. Don't be looking around the room or wondering what your buddies are thinking.
Make her the sole focus of your attention.
If she asks you a question, answer as much as you need to keep the conversation going.
But never assume it's an open invitation to brag. Put your ego in your back pocket, and use your attention to boost hers.
This really is a fail-safe manoeuvre because nearly everyone relishes the opportunity of talking about themselves.
And it means you need never again hang back from meeting a girl for want of a topic to keep her interested.
You spot a girl who looks like everything you've ever wanted, and decide to walk up and introduce yourself.
But what do you say after that?
What can you talk about with her that will get her laughing and smiling - and convince her you're the man of her dreams?
Let me give you one topic that's guaranteed to keep her interested. And it's going to provide you with more talking points than you'll ever need.
Talk about HER.
Yep. As simple as that. Focus your conversation on finding out about her.
Think about it. Instead of standing there trying to impress her with your life story, or waffling on about the weather or the music or the food, you have a ready-made topic that's sure to get her opening up to you.And let's face it. Don't we all assume that someone who finds us interesting is automatically an interesting person?
Plus, it means she'll be doing most of the talking because she'll be telling you about herself. So you won't find yourself fumbling for words to keep the conversation moving.
And there's plenty you can get her talking about - her job, schooldays, dreams and ambitions, hobbies and pastimes, secret hopes, books she likes to read, movies she like to see, music she likes to hear, places she's visited, what she likes to do on vacation
But most important, she's going to see you as way ahead of the typical pick up artist because you're demonstrating that you're interested in HER as a person.
The fact is, when a woman believes you're really interested in her, she'll very quickly start shifting into goo-goo eye mode.
Let me give you a couple of crucial tips to become really good at this.
First. It's absolutely essential that you start off with the attitude that she IS going to be fascinating, and that there are loads of things you can learn about her.
The fact is that every person on this planet has plenty of interesting things to say - when you bother to go looking for them.
So keep this question running around and around at the back of your mind:
"What fascinating things can I find out about this girl?"
Yep. As simple as that. When you keep pushing this sort of question into your unconscious mind, it will respond by feeding you plenty of questions to ask and things to talk about which are focused on HER. And she'll love you for this.
Second. It's crucial you pay her 100 percent attention and follow her conversation closely. Don't be looking around the room or wondering what your buddies are thinking.
Make her the sole focus of your attention.
If she asks you a question, answer as much as you need to keep the conversation going.
But never assume it's an open invitation to brag. Put your ego in your back pocket, and use your attention to boost hers.
This really is a fail-safe manoeuvre because nearly everyone relishes the opportunity of talking about themselves.
And it means you need never again hang back from meeting a girl for want of a topic to keep her interested.
John L Cliff is a certified NLP Trainer and Master Practitioner. He is the author of The Master Seducer's Handbook, a comprehensive learning program based on a behavioural modelling study of expert seducers. He is also the author of From Shy to Popular, a book designed to help people switch from being shy to highly sociable.
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